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How To Say NO

Source: McMillen Health

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How Do I Tell My Parents/Guardians?

If you are concerned about your substance use, having this type of conversation isn’t easy for anyone involved. But chances are that your parents suspect something is happening anyway. Open and honest conversation, if possible, is the best place to start.

Start the conversation as a story or a question.

"I heard about this one substance called _____________"

"Did you ever __________ when you were a kid?"

"Some kids at school have been using __________"

Share with them when you started, how you started, and how often you use.

Share what you want to have happen next.

"I wanted you to know because it's not something I plan to do again"

"I wanted you to know because I'm not sure how to say no next time"

"I want you to know because I think I have a problem"

There are resources available here to help you. You can also call 800-966-HELP (4357).

How Can I Help a Friend With Addiction?

If you're worried about a friend who has an addiction or worried they are developing a substance dependency - this is not something than you can solve on your own, addiction is complex disease that requires professional help. However, there are ways to help.

  • Don't be afraid to talk to a nonthreatening, understanding adult, like a parent, trusted family member, teacher, coach, school counselor. If you are unsure who to call, you can call 800-966-HELP (4357). Getting your friend help is the best support you can offer.
  • Let your friend know that you are available to talk or offer your support.
  • Find activities you can do together that don't include the pressure to use substances (go for a walk, go out to breakfast, draw or paint, cook a meal together, have a movie marathon)
  • Offer your friend a lot of encouragement and praise. Hearing that you care is exactly the kind of motivation your friend needs.

How Can I Talk to My Parents or an Adult About Their Substance Use?

If you're worried about a friend who has an addiction or worried they are developing a substance dependency - this is not something than you can solve on your own, addiction is complex disease that requires professional help. YOU are not meant to be the PARENT. There are ways you can talk to them if you know it's SAFE to do so.

Approach Them About Their Use

  • It’s difficult to find the right time to approach your parents to speak about their addiction. However, if you speak to them while they are under the influence, you’re not likely to be conversing with a coherent person. If your parent has days where they seem to be acting more normal than usual, that would be an ideal time to ask them to talk.
  • Approach them with questions about their use and make it clear that you think they have a problem.
  • Express how it’s affecting you and the rest of your family, calmly and lovingly.

Involve People You Trust

If you have other family members or trusted adults you can trust to speak with your parent’s drug addiction, it’s important to reach out to them. If you don’t want to approach speaking to your parent(s) alone, other adults can help you. A student counselor, a trusted teacher, a coach, a pastor, a family friend - all are great options to help.

Don’t Blame Yourself

Adults are responsible for their children and not the other way around. You deserve better, and things can get better. If your parent or parents are admitted into treatment, it doesn’t mean you will be taken away or that you will lose your family. There are places where your parents can go to get help but still live at home.

 Get Help If You Need It

Speak with a counselor at school and tell them you do not feel safe at home and they will know exactly who to call. This is not an easy step to take, but it is an important one, especially when your safety is involved.

It’s important to remember that you are their child and this is not something that you have to deal with on your own. If you have been taking on the role of a parent in your household and you are worried about younger siblings, it’s important that you take these steps to ensure your safety and the safety of the rest of your family.

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